She wants you to eat her out more: Offer to give a massage all over her inner thighs and on the outer folds of her labia; keep offering to do this, and keep praising her vag, until she mellows out.
If spanking is done correctly...
She wants to fool around in public: Let me be clear: She wants to be dominated: Even big-mouthed ballsy women like me enjoy being dominated! Yet dominating a woman scares a lot of men because they are afraid — rightfully so — of being rape-y.
I want to emphasize the importance of baby steps: Playing around with restraints — loose restraints, Why women enjoy spank course — is definitely a better way to go. She wants you to be the submissive one: Getting dominated might not be her thing, but she might want to dominate you.
I am not saying a man getting dominated has to be emasculating; some guys just perceive it that way.