I feel like we hear a lot of dating horror stories.
And believe me, there's a couple reasons for that. First of all, they're more entertaining. Secondly, we share those stories as cautionary tales to warn each other of the dangers and douche bags -- helpful especially to us single moms who are dating after years of being off the shelf. When I started dating again after 16 zoiks!
What I wasn't prepared for was for so much to go People still go on dates. You know, date dates? Maybe Millennials have given up on the ancient practice, but adults my age are still doing real dates. I've gone to dinner, to the movies, to plays, to the opera.
What I'm not doing: Guys are still picking up the check. However you feel about it, that is still happening as well. I mean, if you insist, you can go dutch or cover the check yourself. But I've been surprised to find guys diving for that check at the end of the night.
And considering what I'm paying in babysitting, it's usually just fine with me. Childless guys will happily date moms.
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Here I thought it would be only single dads who'd want to date me. But nope -- I've dated just as many never-married guys with no kids.
Smart men will look at you as a whole, multifaceted person, not just through the lens of one role. Some guys may even admire you more for being a parent.
Childless guys aren't necessarily immature narcissists. There are childless men who are capable of understanding all the demands you're juggling as a single mom. They respect you for your juggling act, and they'll be flexible and understanding.
Of course, the reverse is also true: Being a dad doesn't necessarily mean you've got your shit together or that you're over yourself. Many guys know how to service a woman properly. Without going into too much detail There are men out there who consider it a duty and a pleasure to rock your world sexually.
No need to waste your time with someone who doesn't. It helps if you send out the right signals that that's something you want, though. Figure out what you think makes you sexy and work it, baby.
Your kid just might be okay with you dating. A lot depends on how you handle the situation, and how old your kids are.
But I think in general, if all else is good with your relationship with your kids, and you've done the hard work of processing the divorce with them, they will accept the idea of you socializing with men who are not Daddy. If you're happy, they're happy usually.
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