If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. There are tons of blog posts like that out there. You might ask yourself why is that? A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them. For some reason maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!
Japanese Tokyo gaijin hunters seem to expect certain things from a woman. Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do e. Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman. Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English — Tokyo gaijin hunters even in broken Japanese.
These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself. As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men. For some reason Japanese women seem to find even ugly foreign guys attractive ….
All in all, it is Tokyo gaijin hunters easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan. For some guys it really gets to their heads and they start bragging about it like crazy as part of the superstar syndrome. The complete opposite is the case for Western foreign women in Japan. As a result it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.
Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan. It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women. I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have. Please note that the following is based on my personal experience and that not everybody out there is like that.
In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language. One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the moneybut the woman takes care of Tokyo gaijin hunters The man only gets a small allowance every week or month and needs to ask his wife for permission if he wants to spend any more of his own hard-earned money! Foreign guys often seem to struggle with this system.
I noticed that those kind of relationships seem to work out better if they live in his home country and not in Japan. She has studied Japanese properly or puts in a lot of effort to improve her Japanese ability even if the Japanese man can speak her native tongue. The man seems to accept that she wants to keep working even after marriage.
All the couples I know of have a relatively harmonic relationship. Of course, there are enough reasons for disputes, but all in all they seem to manage better than couples where the man is foreign. All I want you to keep in mind is that as a guy you should not let it get to your head because suddenly you get all this attention from beautiful Tokyo gaijin hunters.
And as a foreign girl you should keep in mind that your time in Japan — at least in terms of romantic relationships — could be quite lonely at times. Tokyo gaijin hunters
As you said, everyone has their own experience, and from a language perspective, I find it interesting that, while it is my case we speak French at home, as we ended up moving here well before I knew anything about the Japanese languageevery other bi-national couple that I know in town Tokyo gaijin hunters Japanese at home, regardless of who is the foreigner in the couple.
She can manage a budget, I suck at it, it makes sense that she do it. A very interesting point. Maybe you can also write a blog about the differences in behaviour of Japanese and western men? For us women who are interested in dating a Japanese man, to avoid any troubles. I believe that Japanese men are more Tokyo gaijin hunters and serious than western men, at least, the Dutch ones I dated: Thank you very much.
The universal trait is that guys are quite interested in that aspect of relationships. There are so many taller guys out there as well. I needed one pretty bad. On arrival found out all the women working there were Chinese.
Her massage was really great…. I do massage for family and friends, and when I got a massage that is crap, it is quite frustrating. Out of the blue she said that the guys in the US were bigger than the Chinese guys.
It seemed to me she had done a lot of massages and seen a lot of Chinese and US guys. You are so right! I remember your blog from a few years ago.